Are you an underrepresented achiever struggling with overwhelm, anxiety, and perfectionism?
- Do you always feel like you have to have it all together?
- Are you constantly worried others will discover you are not enough?
- Worried no one will ever accept you or love you in the way you want?
- Tired of having to deal with all the crap you have to put up with everyday?
Women in high demand fields
So you’re one of few women on your team. You’ve worked so hard to get where you are. People tell you that you “have it all”. Yet it actually feel likes everyone just has a part of you….with nothing left for you.
You’re often caught in a double-bind….You have to be smart and confident, but not too direct or too assertive. You can’t be too emotional or too cold. You can’t make anyone uncomfortable. You have to be a commanding presence at work and a nurturing presence at home….oh, by the way, you also have to look amazing while doing it all. You’re often stuck feeling you have to meet these perfect (although unrealistic) expectations, but when you try to meet them you notice you are sacrificing important parts of yourself.
Imagine putting your needs on your to do list, defining for yourself how you want to show up in the world, and finding joy in a little more imperfection in your life. When you begin to allow yourself to accept all the parts of you with compassion, things begin to change. You find your voice. Therapy with me will help you feel more empowered and resilient.
People of Color in High Demand Fields
You look around your workplace and you don’t see a lot of faces like yours. Your friends and family tell you “you’ve made it” but they don’t know all the b.s. you have to put up with every day. The sting of the latest painful microaggression, on top of the one the day before, and the one the day before that. They don’t see how these experiences fuel your feelings of being an imposter, no matter how hard you try to push them away. Leaving you feeling like even when you work twice as hard, it’s just never enough. You gotta keep on that superhero cape. Having to push down your own feelings, while others get to have all the feelings they want. It’s also hard to tell your family how you feel when they are so proud of you. You don’t want to seem ungrateful. Yet not being able to share these feelings, widens the space between you.
On top of all this, you’ve felt so raw with everything going on in politics today. Going back and forth between anger, sadness, anxiety, and numbness. It’s so hard to understand how your co-workers just keep acting like everything is normal when you feel so on edge.
Imagine giving yourself space to really feel all of your emotions, getting clear on how you want to respond to tough situations, and developing tools to help you stay connected with your inner strength. When you begin to allow yourself to accept all the parts of you with compassion, things begin to change. You find your voice. Therapy with me will help you feel more empowered and resilient.
LGBTQ Professionals in High Demand Fields
So you moved to the “queer promised land”, same-sex marriage is legal, “equality has arrived” and you have everything you want…right??
Or, at least that’s what people tell you when you try to talk them about your experience. But the reality is, you’re still dealing with some pretty tough stuff.
Like the fear of holding your partner’s hand on the street, dismissive comments at work, and finding a partner who wants the same things as you. You’re still coping with family who doesn’t accept you and scars from bullying when you were a kid. You’re figuring out how to bring together your culture, religion, and sexuality. Or maybe you’re just beginning to explore your sexuality or your gender identity. I get it.
I get the progress we have made that is so beautiful, but also the struggle that is still very real, every single day.
Imagine writing your own script for your ideal life, feeling more clear about all the parts of who are you, and surrounding yourself with loving relationships. When you begin to allow yourself to accept all the parts of you with compassion, things begin to change. You find your voice. Therapy with me will help you feel more empowered and resilient.
You might be thinking, “Why would I want to talk to a white therapist about my experiences? She hasn’t walked a day in my shoes.”
And you’re totally right, I haven’t walked a day in your shoes. Acknowledging my white privilege and identifying how to use my privilege for progressive change is my lifelong work. I 100% want every person of color to be able to work with a therapist of color if that’s the best match for them. At the same time, I know the reality that this may not always be accessible to everyone who seeks it and I want to be an ally and progressive resource available for people of color seeking therapy.
You may be wondering, “It’s San Francisco, I can throw a stone and find an LGBTQ therapist. So what’s different about you?”
The unique thing I offer is a deep understanding of what it’s like to live “in between”. To live in the middle space of the sexuality or gender spectrum. Whether you identify as bisexual, pansexual, queer, or fluid. Whether you identify as genderqueer, gender non-binary, or gender expansive. I’m here for you. Living in that middle place is something I have specialized training and experience working with. I am passionate about supporting the bi+ and gender expansive community and helping the invisible become visible. One of my favorite things I have done in my career is run bi+ support groups and gender identity support groups.
Are you thinking, “I’d love to work with you but I’m not sure about virtual appointments?”
Virtual therapy is a great resource to make therapy more convenient and accessible. I offer secure HIPAA-compliant video sessions through SimplePractice which mets bank-level security standards. My clients find it just as effective and enjoy the flexibility.
You’re ready to begin believing you are enough.
You may feel like you don’t have time for therapy. Like you have to be the strong one and therapy is for other people. I know it can be hard to let yourself slow down and give yourself as much permission to take care of yourself as you do of others. You are strong and resilient and therapy can help you feel even stronger and better able to do all the things that are important to you with more ease.
Find your voice.
Get out of the cycle you are stuck in and let’s find a new way together.
I help underrepresented achievers believe they are enough. Imagine experiencing more peace in your life, trusting yourself more, and allowing yourself to be imperfect once in a while. You can find your voice and feel more grounded, balanced, and resilient.
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